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Relationship Advice you can Use
The beauty of being single is the fact that you can start from a blank slate! We’ve all been in bad relationships; remember how hard it was to get out? We are now in a position to create our ideal person and settle for nothing less. Don’t pass up the opportunity to do it right. This easy piece of relationship advice will change the way you look at things.[/column]
For single folks there is always that little voice in the back of your head telling you you’re supposed to find the “right one”. Pressure from family, friends, and coworkers doesn’t make it any easier. This voice and these pressures care less about the quality of your relationship and more about sticking to the status quo. Unfortunately most people cave to these pressures and find themselves in unsatisfactory relationships and bad situations by forcing the issue to relieve these outside influences.
Are You Even Ready for a Relationship?
This is a very important question to get right and many people may look past this simple yet vital point. The easiest way to know whether or not your ready is asking yourself a few simple questions.
- Am I happy single?
- Am I stable enough to live on my own?
- Can I walk away from the wrong person after a few dates?
- Am I far enough removed emotionally from my last relationship?
If you can answer yes to all these questions than you are on the right track towards finding the right person for you. Finding a lasting partnership is a process that must start before you even meet the person. It’s an inside job.
What am I Looking For in a Partner? (Creating Your Sexual Ideal)
Many people look past this simple step due to outside pressures, huge mistake! Not understanding what you are willing to take will set you up for failure. Many people talk a good game but really don’t check any of the boxes that you may really require. Accepting anything less is a sure fire way into an unfulfilling relationship.
List Everything (Vitally Important)
Take out a piece of paper and list all of the traits you require of a partner. List as many as you can think of: Honesty, cares about fitness, eats well, caring, romantic, intelligent, good family, want’s kids, clean house, nice car, etc.
Compare the List to Yourself in a Searching and Honest Way
Go through your list and do an honest analysis of yourself in comparison to your list. Yes, honestly ask yourself once your list is complete if you embody all the traits you are looking for in your mate.
If there are parts of your list that you yourself don’t embody; such as, you want someone that is “honest” but you tend to lie or stretch the truth, or someone “fit” but you are out of shape, than at least you know where to start. The point of this exercise is to take an honest look at yourself and see if you are ready to attract the type of person you are looking for. Like people attract one another after all. It is very important that you be the person that you are looking to attract.
Set Goals Based on this Information
For the traits where you may not stack up against your sexual ideal, you can now make a goal of it. Attack these goals before settling for anyone. The beauty of this process is that it will put you around the type of people you are looking to attract. If you are looking for someone that is very healthy and you yourself start to focus on healthy living you will naturally be around likeminded individuals.
It’s not that you won’t be able to land a few dates and possibly even a relationship with your ideal person, but if you are looking for something that will last in a positive way you must BE the person you are looking for. This process is for finding the right one, not just anyone. It’s about changing things in your life that you value in others through identification. Be the person you are looking to attract and you’ll be amazed at the results, take your time in this process and best of luck!