Within your circle of friends, you have those people that you are drawn to for many reasons. You love the way they take charge in a situation or the way they always include everyone or the way they always seem to make even the most boring situations tons of fun. It just makes sense that these fantastic people that you call your friends are going to attract other amazing people as their romantic interests.
After the Break Up
Of course, while your friend is dating that little hottie from the next neighborhood over, she’s off limits to you. The same goes for that handsome guy that tends bar at the pub you and your friend like to frequent. When the two of them start dating, he’s off the market to you as well. What happens after they break up though? Is is ever okay for you to date the same person that one of your friends dated previously?
Emotions Can Run High
Even if your friend and their significant other have broken up, there could still be some lingering emotions attached to the relationship. While these emotions are most likely going to be the strongest when it comes to those relationships that ended recently as well as those that lasted for a significant amount of time, for some people, there will always be churning emotions attached to that particular person. If, however, your friend has moved on to another relationship, dating an ex could be possible.
Dating Someone Else Could Be the Smartest Move
With more than seven billion people on the planet, it might be a better option to look outside your friend’s pool of exes for your next romantic interest. Even if your friend has gotten over the emotions associated with this person, it is likely that the ex would not be welcomed back into your circle of friends as your new significant other. You can avoid all this drama by choosing someone totally different that none of your friends have dated previously.
Your Feelings Could Override Everything
Sometimes, in spite of what your logical side tells you, one of your friend’s exes simply seems to be made for you. If this is the case, it is still important to tread carefully. You want to make sure that you are not seeing the ex covertly in order to avoid a scene with your friend. Being honest with your feelings about the potential for a relationship with your friend’s ex is not really the same as asking for your friend’s blessing for the new relationship. Instead, it is more along the lines of you keeping your friend informed so the news is not an unexpected surprise. Be prepared, though, to lose the friendship if you choose to pursue a relationship with an ex of theirs. It might be too painful for them to be around each other. Doing so could dredge up all sorts of negative emotions that simply have no place in their lives at that point.
